tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14391563.post8850120480851340614..comments2023-10-25T07:20:23.858-07:00Comments on Vicarious Therapy: DisclosureAquahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16230285017033299419noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14391563.post-35273650097078701852008-08-11T08:51:00.001-07:002008-08-11T08:51:00.001-07:00SV and Kara,I know he made the right decision. I ...SV and Kara,<BR/>I know he made the right decision. I need to know he will not repeat the pattern my Dad keeps repeating with me.<BR/><BR/>I have often held back the really personal details of my life, but I think it was important for me to share this. I know many people's parents divorce, and it may seem like a small thing, but it's the way no one allowed, and still, does not allow, us to talk about it,understand it and learn to accept it that causes so much distrust and feelings of being traumatized and retraumatized later in life. The way my Dad dealt and continues to deal with this has impacted every relationship I have ever had. I am trying so hard to stop allowing him to seep into so many areas of my life. You would think at 43 I'd be over it.<BR/>...aquaAquahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16230285017033299419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14391563.post-19322194960576942532008-08-11T08:51:00.000-07:002008-08-11T08:51:00.000-07:00It is a very important topic and your right about ...It is a very important topic and your right about me not being in favor in self disclosure unless it helps the patient, and has a place within the therapy. It's not meant to help the doctor he will have to get help from others than his patients.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14391563.post-82228049498264180362008-08-11T08:13:00.000-07:002008-08-11T08:13:00.000-07:00Dr Shock,It was not you. It was me. Sorry I misun...Dr Shock,<BR/>It was not you. It was me. Sorry I misunderstood...but it sure gave me lots to think and write about;>) It was helpful for me to get all that out of my head and onto a page. Thanks and sorry for the mix-up,<BR/>...aquaAquahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16230285017033299419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14391563.post-67318120945179442532008-08-11T06:13:00.000-07:002008-08-11T06:13:00.000-07:00The disclosure of your therapist in my post was an...The disclosure of your therapist in my post was an example of <B>GOOD</B> use of self-disclosure.<BR/>"Several apparent reasons might contribute to the disclosure. MS has an unpredictable course, symptoms might become visible, his patient was worried." I think it is a good example how you can weigh several arguments and use self-disclosure for the benefit of the patient, not for the doctor as in the other example.<BR/>May be my limited knowledge of English sorry for the misunderstanding<BR/>Regards Dr ShockAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14391563.post-67531418605963749982008-08-10T17:24:00.000-07:002008-08-10T17:24:00.000-07:00Thank you for sharing so much...honesty and openes...Thank you for sharing so much...honesty and openess I really needed right now. I agree that his decision in opening up that part of his life to you...the part of his life that could effect you was a thoughtful and heartfelt decision as who you are was surely factored in.<BR/><BR/>Some things we need to know and some of those things are decided by who we are. Yet some things are just a gift of respect. But I do believe a degree of openess is required.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14391563.post-52123258697861966092008-08-10T15:21:00.000-07:002008-08-10T15:21:00.000-07:00I still think he made the right decision. Given yo...I still think he made the right decision. Given your background, not telling you would have caused more problems than it solved. Even for me, struggling with different issues than you are, I would find it confusing, upsetting and trust-breaking if my therapist suddenly started missing appointments on a semi-regular basis. If it had been obvious he had been having health issues long before this happened - yeah, that wouldn't go over so well. Definate feelings of betrayal...The Silent Voices in my Mindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07341880178531061836noreply@blogger.com