tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14391563.post7405244597687316555..comments2023-10-25T07:20:23.858-07:00Comments on Vicarious Therapy: Is it a Love Hurt Thing?Aquahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16230285017033299419noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14391563.post-61508891717702065812007-10-09T11:34:00.000-07:002007-10-09T11:34:00.000-07:00I haven't given up on you honey. It is unfair what...I haven't given up on you honey. It is unfair what your husband is putting you through. <BR/><BR/>I can not understand why your pdoc wants you to go off all of your meds!!<BR/><BR/>I wish that I could give you a big hug and share a joke and a smile. :)Handsome B. Wonderfulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11524517496880481239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14391563.post-16193749100644205102007-10-09T08:13:00.000-07:002007-10-09T08:13:00.000-07:00I haven't been reading you for a while and am sadd...I haven't been reading you for a while and am saddened that you are still seeking wellness. I have to tell you the best thing that happened to my mental health was the dissolution of my marriage.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14391563.post-35583574877748551132007-10-08T13:44:00.000-07:002007-10-08T13:44:00.000-07:00Thank you Jcat and Polar Bear. I have come to the...Thank you Jcat and Polar Bear. I have come to the conclusion that my marriage is ending. Despite how angry my husband gets at the meds and my depression he is a good person. We just are not right for each other right now. I know he will help me find a new place that is both a nice place to live and healthy for me. It's just hard to accept that it's over.<BR/><BR/>Jcat...I saved your email address and will send you an e-mail in the next week. I think we can help each other out with setting goals to exercise etc. Your note was so caring and compassionate. Thanks.Aquahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16230285017033299419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14391563.post-3709662068553339772007-10-07T12:48:00.000-07:002007-10-07T12:48:00.000-07:00(((((((aqua)))))))I don't know what to suggest. B...(((((((aqua)))))))<BR/>I don't know what to suggest. But I do share the thought that medications will help lift your mood so you can start working on your issues. I don't know exactly which meds/combo of meds to try.<BR/><BR/>I know it's a struggle and it's a journey with seemingly no end in sight. Just hang on tight. I hope you will be able to feel better soon.Polar Bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09042280087446534146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14391563.post-36553893122892658552007-10-07T10:04:00.000-07:002007-10-07T10:04:00.000-07:00Oh sweetie....wish I could help. Don't ever doubt ...Oh sweetie....wish I could help. Don't ever doubt that this is biological in cause - would you (or anyone who has actually ever had an MDE) actually CHOOSE to feel like this? There are a lot of people around who think it's cool to be 'depressed', or even more so lately, 'bipolar'; I'm sure you've met them too. Biggest giveaway? When being depressed doesn't stop you from doing the fun stuff..just from work or other chores. <BR/><BR/>I can't imagine how hard it is to be battling with a relationship at the same time - I've ditched mine in the past, even though at the same time I know that it is far better for us personally to try and stay and work at it. Sometimes though, I guess that it can be just too much for both of you, and from the way you say things, I think that's where you are now. <BR/><BR/>The one critical thing though is that your HB needs to understand that taking psych meds is so NOT something that you do for fun. Yeah, about as often as it snows here...there is one that will sometimes get you a bit stoned the first few times, but mostly even that isn't really pleasant. Some of the issues I've had with people I thought were understanding have foundered on similar things. That if someone doesn't accept that you're taking a whole whack of meds not to 'make you happy' or any crap platitude, but just to get back to having a place for you to live inside your mind, that you would be more than willing to accept day to day unhappiness if it didn't mean the unending hell of hating yourself with all your heart every day of your life.... if I want to just 'be happy' chemically I'd be out there getting crack rocks from the local Nigerian in an instant. Not what you are looking for...the meds are probably the only way you can get back to being who you really are when the chemical illness isn't decimating you. <BR/><BR/>And - if your pdoc is anywhere as wonderful as mine is, and the way he has always sounded before , he is - don't doubt that he IS on your side. Maybe he thinks that the med break would be enough of a reason for your husband to want to work on things, and that he doesn't want you living on your own? That's a big thing for mine.. the not being alone too much bit. <BR/>Misguided maybe, but meant with the best in mind for you. <BR/><BR/>Even before I read your post,I was going to suggest that we do some bi-continental motivation. I'll go to the gym tomorrow and NOT buy another bottle of vodka... would you be willing to do similar crap as well? Lord knows I wouldn't want you in the same gym watching me die after 50m on the bicycle... but maybe some long distance unconditional hand-holding would work for both of us. <BR/>Mail add : jcat456@gmail.com - and then we can take discussions offline? <BR/>(((AQUA))) - very big mental hug..!jcathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03736961961261409218noreply@blogger.com