tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14391563.post1692356510261521025..comments2023-10-25T07:20:23.858-07:00Comments on Vicarious Therapy: DisdainAquahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16230285017033299419noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14391563.post-59661687278999943102009-03-07T10:34:00.000-08:002009-03-07T10:34:00.000-08:00I think that this very deeply ingrained feeling of...I think that this very deeply ingrained feeling of inadequacy (can I use this word here?) is very difficult to shake and I believe many people feel this way too. But that doesnt mean that the pain is any less.<BR/><BR/>I alsothink that for someone battling mental illness, it's easy for us to think of ourselves as not good enough, not sane enough, and just generally not good enough a human being.<BR/><BR/>It's sad, but I just want you to know that I DON'T THINK you are worthless at all. I thikn you are trying your best with the circumstances you were dealt with. And infact I think you are extremely courageous in your battle by still putting yourself out there - teaching, painting, choir.Polar Bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09042280087446534146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14391563.post-54362221242029252242009-03-07T02:45:00.000-08:002009-03-07T02:45:00.000-08:00I'm not quite sure how to put this, but I'll give ...I'm not quite sure how to put this, but I'll give it a whirl. How much does it matter if not everyone likes you? This is something I used to sturggle with endlessly, feeling that I just had to, HAD TO, have everyones approval about everything. Which is actually impossible, and just makes you run yourself ragged trying to please, and always falling short of the mark.<BR/><BR/>If you find a way to be secure in yourself, and feel less like others are the more important thing, it is not selfish, it's just good mental health house keeping. Does it matter that much if you are not in "The circle"? Because how sure are you that the circle even exists? It sounds more like you are creating a reason for a feeling, ie low self confidence. It's an illusion that everyone else fits in, because you focus so much on how you are different. Like I focus so much on the fat on mybody, i assume that i am fat, whereas i am actually quite slim, but i obsess over it endlessly it ends up being the focal point of my existance. What's the worst that could happen if you just let go and assumed that you fitted in? Stopped looking for signs of how you are different, and just was in the moment doing what you were doing?<BR/><BR/>Lola xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com